Self-esteem is the fundamental of life. It’s a mental quality that empowers you to live the life of your dreams. It gives you the strength to achieve everything in your life. It’s an inner state of your mind, when you feel completely free to do the things that make you happy. You are free from other people thoughts and judgments, free from rumors, influencing your mood and actions. Your inner world is always completely calm and peaceful. The only thing you experience is pleasure for living in this wonderful world.
Everyone of us want all those thing. People have always been searching the way to become happy. So many researches have been made, so many areas of our lives has been studied to discover that secret. And I am happy to say, that the secret is not yet a secret, but a profoundly studied, comprehensive knowledge that is now available to absolutely everyone.
The roots of self-esteem lye deep in your past. First problems arise from the day you were born. The child from the first day of his life begins exploring the world with all the five senses. He sees, hears, feels and the process of development begins. How much love has your mother given to you during infant period will determine how confident will you be in future. All the information you will hear from your parents will stay with you to use in your life. All the behavior of your parents you see during you grow up in your family will influence your adult behavior. All limiting beliefs and “truths”, anxieties and fears, all models of responses on special situations of your parents will determine your world view. Parent influence is the main cause of our low self-esteem.
The second cause that makes us act and live in low self-esteem is social environment we grow and then live in. Most of people that surround us are people with the self-esteem that should be increased. They lack confidence and courage to grow mentally and spiritually, and to achieve their goals. What they also do is that they spread their diffidence on you too. They hold you on their level and do not let you fulfill your dream. Just imagine how many people are there that develop your way of thinking: teachers, friends, school buddies, people you watch in movies, talk shows, soup operas, news, people who write negative and even angry articles in daily news-papers. The influence on our subconscious by all this information we get every day is so huge, you can’t even imagine. We absorb this negative attitude towards other people and life, that we become negatively thinking about ourselves. As a result we also get low self-esteem.
The third cause of low self-esteem is religious conditioning. Most of us weather we are involved in some religious organization or not, weather we believe in God or not, think that there is someone above, who can punish us if we do something “wrong”. We are taught to feel guilty and unworthy every time we do that “wrong” thing. But let me say, that there is no wrong or right, there are just people who invented these labels to manipulate our lives and to use us as a tool to get what they want, not what we truly desire.
The bottom line is that Bible says that God made us by his own image. If you are sent by God on this planet, than you have your own mission, and there can not be anything “wrong” or “right”. There are just steps of your development to fulfill Gods goals here on The Earth. May be you don’t fulfill your purpose in the present material life, but there is eternity for your soul to come back. You always do the best you can.
