The ability to talk is what distinguishes us from animals. Word is what makes human a human. Words have the power to motivate and to disappoint us, to make us feel happy and worthy.
We all use words, but in order to use them properly we have to choose the right words to speak. Words can influence our level of confidence, so let’s find the words that confident people are using in their daily language. I want to focus on two word groups: the one that is building the confidence and the one that ruins it.
Let’s take a look at the words “try” and “attempt”. What is the first thing you think when you hear the person say those words? The first thought that comes to my mind is that there’s little chance that this person complete the task. When a person says “try” he automatically takes off any responsibility from himself. He always can say that he has tried but nothing worked out.
If you say that “you will try to do something” you are fooling yourself. You are unconfident in your motivation and ability level to perform a particular task.
Verbs “to wish” and “to hope” are also confidence killers. Imagine that you create a resolution list on the New Year’s Eve. If write down your dreams, you just describe hopes and wishes that someday maybe are going to happen. What about writing the list of specific goals and actions you need to take to achieve those goals? Do you see the difference? Don’t waste your time by hoping and wishing. Instead create a detailed plan of actions you have to do and follow it. Then you’ll see results.
Other dangerous words are “could”, “would” and “should”. Those words mean that you probably could, would or should do something but for some reasons have not. These words activate your mind to find excuses for not doing the things you are too lazy to do.
Eliminate these words from your mind. Just consciously control what you are saying and delete these words from your vocabulary. Start using words that are confidence boosters. Use word like “absolutely”, “sure”, “undoubtedly”, “I will”. Do not lie to yourself or others. Always make the definite decision.
Change “I would” to “I can”. If you say that you will lose weight then there is no way out, you have to do that. Use the direct words to raise your confidence and boost your performance. Give up losers talk and start talking the language of success and confidence.
