If you want to achieve high levels of self-esteem and self-confidence, you have to become aware of your life flow and take it in to your own hands. If you believe that you have fate and you can not change it – you are right. If you believe that there is no fate, and you are a captain of your life ship – you are right too. Only you get to decide whether you are going to spend you time blaming circumstances and fate or you are going to act upon your dreams and create your own scenario of life. People with high self-esteem always exactly know what they what from life and search for the ways to get what they want. The moment you realize that you responsible for your life- things will extremely change.
The great part of achieving what you want is to make a detailed plan of the things you desire (the job you want to do, the money you want to earn, the relationships you want to be in, the education you want to get, the spiritual level you want to advance to) and actions you have to do to get to the place you really want to be.
Take some time to determine what you truly want from life. Take a piece of paper and write everything down. Your goals should contain plans on your physical, financial, personal (relationships) and spiritual life. Describe in detail your health and body, your perfect income, your car and house, your wife or husband, your kids, the friends you want to have, the vocations you want to have, the state of spiritual harmony you want to enjoy. Write at least 100 goals. Another good thing after that is to prioritize the goals, divide goals into long term and short term. If there are some difficult goals, and there should be, divide them into smaller ones to see clearer the way to achieve them.
After you have made a list of goals, write down the possible way to achieve that goal. If you do not see the way you can reach some goal, than live the free space, the subconscious will give you the answer later. It is very essential to put the deadlines to achieve your goals; otherwise they are just wishes that could take for ever to come true. Build the detailed plan of actions you have to do to get closer to your every goal. Just writing down your goals your self-esteem goes high, because you actually see how many thing there are to achieve, and you even see most of the ways to dwell upon them.
I think you have already heard about the usefulness of the 3to5 cards, where you write your goals on. It seems such a ridiculous thing to do, to keep some cards in your wallet or pocket, but the power of doing so is indescribable. Every time you look on these cards, you remind yourself the reason of actions that you do. You give yourself empowerment and more confidence to do something, because you always know the final result. You also command your subconscious to find out the ways to accomplish your goals.
The card should be written in the present tense, as you have already achieved your goals. For example if you want to have some specific car, you should write: “I have BMW X5”. The reason why you write your goals in present tense is, because you create tension for your subconscious. It does not understand why you are stating that you already have a car, although you don’t have it. So it begins to figure out the ways to eliminate the tension. And the only way subconscious can eliminate the tension – is to create the way to achieve a particular goal.
It is also very helpful if you ask the universe to guide you to thing you desire. The way to do so is very easy. You have to read your goal twice a day: after you woke up and before sleep and also experience the feeling of having what you want. You can add visual effect to what you say in your mind. The universe always responds to vibrations, by sending the write people and circumstances in the right place and time to help your dreams come true. Your mission is just recognizing those people and circumstances and act upon them.
Believe me if you do just part of the tasks I have just described, you will realize that life is not that bad at all. If you will get this feeling of being your own God and creator of your destiny, you will gain much of self-confidence and motivation to live that destiny. Thing can ,of course, sometimes go wrong, not the way you have planed, but you always have the right to change the plan, because you are the architect of your life. It is always the reason to just try, than to sit and imagine how good it would be and never know for sure.
